As the years go by, I realize more and more what a very kind-hearted little boy we have. Every now and then, Nicholas and I will be having a conversation, and he’ll bring up some random thing that happened at school. It always surprises me when he tells me these things, probably because when he’s home, things are quite different than when he’s with others.
These deep conversations usually happen at supper time- we always eat as a family around the dining room table. It’s a habit of our’s to always ask the boys how their day was at school, on the bus, etc. This is where it begins. Usually it’s just a simple “good” answer, and then we have to pry everything else out of them- who they ate lunch with, who they played with at recess, did they stay sitting down on the bus?, did they have math club today? Who was your partner?, etc…
But then, there are those occasional nights when we get a little more information, like the time Nicholas said that he told one of his fellow classmates that Jesus loves them. This classmate has always been difficult for Nicholas to get along with. This caused an immediate head-whip-around for me. I looked at him and said, “What did you just say???????????????” I couldn’t even believe my ears. Sadly, I hadn’t really thought about the fact that my children really should be saying things like this to others, and that this shouldn’t surprise me when they say it. But, it did. I was beside myself with pride and tear-filled eyes.
I asked Nicholas why he said this to him, and he said it was because he was having a bad day and being naughty again towards the teacher. He felt that he needed to hear this, so he went up to him and told him that Jesus loves him. Nicholas was really disappointed though, and this is why he was telling me about it. You see, this little boy has a hard time at school- anywhere actually. Sadly, he isn’t very nice, and tends to cause trouble all the time. We’ve always told Nicholas to just be nice to him- don’t hang around with him, but be nice. Say “Hi” and stuff. So, this is what he’s done this whole school year and last. When Nicholas felt it important to tell this little boy this, he was shot down real quick. He told Nicholas that Jesus didn’t love him and never would.
Being only seven years old, Nicholas didn’t know how to respond, so he just walked away. I told him that this little boy wouldn’t know whether or not Jesus really DID love him, if he had never been taught about him. Nicholas and I had quite the little talk from here. He has planted a seed in this little guy’s soul. Regardless of what he said in response to him, it’s something he will always think about, and know that Nicholas loved him enough to tell him. At the time, Nicholas had no idea what a huge blessing he was being to him. I still don’t think he grasps this concept. I had a big smile on my face for the rest of the night.
Then, there was that time (at supper again) that he was all irritated with the other boys in his class. He said that some of the boys had been making a big mess every time they went to the bathroom- peeing all over the seat. He told me that he always cleans up after himself, because he doesn’t want to upset his teacher.
Well, that particular day, one of the boys had made a really big mess. His teacher was pretty upset and was trying to figure out who had done it, so she could get them to clean it up. Nicholas didn’t like it that she was upset, so he took the initiative to go into the bathroom and clean up that really nasty mess all by himself. I was like, “Whaaaaa??? You cleaned up someone else’s mess of pee, and no one told or asked you to???” He just shrugged his shoulders and was like, “Ya?” It was no big deal to him….. Wow. He doesn’t like to see people upset, so he does what he needs to, so they won’t be anymore. No one knew that he had done this, and he was totally fine with that. He didn’t care if they knew. He just wanted to see her happy.
I think my seven year old son is a better person than me. I’m pretty sure I would’ve stayed as far away from that mess as I possibly could’ve, at his age. It would’ve been disgusting to me. I know I would’ve just kept doing what I was doing and expect the child that had made that mess, to clean it up themselves. I told Nicholas to make sure he wasn’t cleaning up after everyone else all the time, but that he was sticking up for himself, too. He knew that. He was just taking some responsibility and being humble.
My biggest question is: Why can’t he be more like this at home, too?????
Well, you know… It honestly gives me a sense of pride to know that we’re raising him right. The things that we’re saying to him at home, are sticking with him when he’s away from home. This makes me happy- incredibly happy, and I couldn’t be more proud of him.
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